”Maybe later” is the phrase most hectic parents use to delay kids’ play request

London, May 20 (ANI): The phrase that today’s hectic parents use most often in response to their kids’ request to play with them is: “Maybe later”, revealed a new study.

Researchers found that, despite children being parents” ”main priority”, 80 per cent admit they don”t devote enough time to them.

In fact, the report found working parents spend less than an hour a day giving their kids one-to-one attention – with the average child getting just 36 minutes with their mother or father.

Children”s responses to the survey painted a similar picture, claiming parents are too preoccupied with working, tidying and checking emails to address their needs.

The study of 3,000 working parents and their children by car insurance provider Admiral found that almost eight out of ten children said they were fed up of being parked in front of the television instead of being entertained.

The trend also showed adults are parenting ”remotely” from their laptops or kitchen sink and continually promising their attention ”later”.

””The generation of ”Maybe Later” kids shows a worrying trend of parents not spending as much time as they should with their children,” the Telegraph quoted James Carnduff of Admiral, which conducted the research as part of its Family Journeys campaign, as saying.

””Parents admit their children aren”t getting enough of their attention, and children are also feeling the impact of this, desperate for their parents to spend more time with them.

””We live in ever busier times with many parents taking work home with them once they leave the office, but it seems this is having a negative effect on the relationship they have with their children.

””Parents need to remember that playing with your kids is a great way to relieve stress and forget about work.

””The responses from the children we asked show that parents can”t get away with simply sticking their children in front of the TV as that”s simply no replacement for quality time,” he added.

The research also found on top of a normal full time working week, busy parents log onto their emails as soon as they get home from work at least four nights a week.

And at least one of the two parents misses dinner twice a week due to working late.

When at home, 70 per cent of mums and dads admit they spend much of their spare time cooking and cleaning rather than playing with their children.

And 56 per cent often find themselves promising to play with their children after they have finished a bit of work, checked their emails or completed household chores.

But kids are fed up with being treated like second best.

Two thirds said mum and dad are always saying they”ll help with homework or play ”later”.

Six in ten children said they wished their parents worked less and 55 per cent wished they would leave the cleaning until after they went to bed.

Sixty eight per cent said they would like it if their parents had more time to play with them.

””Trying to balance work and home life can be difficult in modern society, but simple things like going on trips as a family can be easy and fun, and don”t need to cost a lot of money,” said Carnduff.

””We”re encouraging families to take more trips out together; these family memories are the things our kids remember from their childhood.

””Saying ”maybe later” to children needs to become a thing of the past for parents, as the results of our survey show that the nation”s children are well and truly fed up,” he added. (ANI)

Bristol Palin ‘gets $30K offer for public speaking’

Washington, May 19 (ANI): Former Alaska Governor Sarah Palin’s daughter, Bristol, who got pregnant at the age of 17, will soon be discussing motherhood and parenting, as part of her public speaking job.

She has landed a deal with Single Source Speakers that will increase her fortune by anything between 15,000 and 30,000 dollars.

The Palin family attorney Thomas Van Flein said that her exact fees depends on factors such as which group she”s addressing and what she must do to prepare.

She has been listed on the speaking group”s website as available for conferences, fund-raisers, special events and holidays, as well as women”s, youth, abstinence and “pro-life” programs, reports the Telegraph.

Bristol had son, Tripp, last year. Her teenage pregnancy drew huge media. (ANI)

Michael Douglas says he has ‘taken blames about being a bad father’

New York, May 3 (ANI): Actor Michael Douglas has in an interview revealed that he has “taken blames about being a bad father”, but is working hard at turning it around.

Douglas, 65, who spoke for the first time since his son Cameron was thrown in jail on drug charges, told NBC “Today’s” Matt Lauer that his parenting ways have changed for kids Dylan, 9, and Carys, 7.

“When I had Cameron I was early in my career and as opposed to most jobs, making movies takes you all around the world, so you were absentee in that sense,” the New York Daily News quoted him as saying.

“My priorities have completely changed. My marriage and my families come certainly before my career,” he added. (ANI)

Gwyneth Paltrow says best solution to tantrums is to use earplugs!

London, April 30 (ANI): American actress Gwyneth Paltrow says that the best way to deal with kids’ tantrums is to use earplugs.

The 37-year-old actress who has revealed the secret of successful parenting has two kids, daughter Apple, soon to be 6, and son Moses, 5.

Married to Coldplay lead singer Chris Martin, Paltrow feels that the best way to cope with the problem is block your ears, reports The Daily Express.

“They’re kids and they have to do what they have to do,” Paltrow said.

“You just have to wear earplugs sometimes. I started to plug my ears because of all these toys that make noise, instead of smashing the toys,” Paltrow added. (ANI)

Watching R-rated movies linked to early alcohol use

Washington, April 26 (ANI): A new study has suggested that middle-schoolers who are forbidden to watch R-rated movies are less likely to start drinking than peers whose parents are more lenient about such films.

In a study of nearly 3,600 New England middle school students, researchers found that among kids who said their parents never allowed them to watch R movies, few took up drinking over the next couple years.

Of that group, 3 percent said they had started drinking when questioned 13 to 26 months after the initial survey.

That compared with 19 percent of their peers who”d said their parents “sometimes” let them see R-rated films, and one-quarter of students who”d said their parents allowed such movies “all the time.”

The researchers say the findings underscore the importance of parents paying close attention to their children”s media exposure.

“We think this is a very important aspect of parenting, and one that is often overlooked,” said Dr. James D. Sargent, a professor of pediatrics at Dartmouth Medical School in Hanover, New Hampshire.

The new study has been reported in the May issue of the Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs. (ANI)

Child welfare under scrutiny

How do two children end up being placed in the home of a convicted sex offender, namely the man who molested their mother?

This is the question it took the ABC weeks and a series of emails and phone calls to get the Department for Child Protection to answer, and still the details are sketchy.

The situation is this.

An eight-year-old boy and his three-year-old sister are unable to be cared for by their mother. So they are placed in their grandparents home.

In 2007, the grandfather is denied a Working with Children Check card because he has a conviction of sexually abusing his daughter.

The Department for Child Protection moves in and removes the children… but just two months later, the Children’s Court overrules the move and awards the grandparents a Parenting Order.

The opposition child protection spokeswoman Sue Ellery says it appears the Department was working against itself.

“It’s completely inconsistent to me that one part of the child protection system deems this man unfit to either work in a paid position or to volunteer with children and the other part of the child protection system deems it appropriate for these children to have daily access and supervision from this man,” Ms Ellery said.

The Department says the only avenue it had was to request a protection order from the court, so it could conduct regular visits to monitor their safety.

It maintains the children were never at any risk and that the grandfather was considered low risk.

But the National Chairwoman of Adults Surviving Child Abuse Cathy Kezelman says regular checks are not enough.

“As we know, the crime of child sexual abuse is a silent crime that occurs in secrecy and in private,” she said.

“So doing checks that come and go can not actually know what’s going on in that household from moment to moment.”

Ms Ellery says under no circumstances should the children have been placed in the home of a sex offender in the first place.

“A man who committed incest with his own daughter ought not be in a position where he has close household access to his grandchildren,” Ms Ellery said.

The Department

When the ABC first contacted the Department about the issue in late March, we were told that the children were safe and were being monitored.

After further questioning, the Department, in a statement, said it was “currently reviewing the case to determine whether it needs to return to the Children’s Court to seek care and protection orders for the children which would bring them under the guardianship of the Department”.

Ms Ellery says the process had taken far too long. She says she raised concerns about it when she was the minister in 2007.

“I certainly had concerns that I discussed with the director general of the department and with various staff including local staff that a man who had a conviction of child abuse against his own daughter was to be given close, domestic access to his own grandchildren, one of whom was a girl.”

The Department has refused to be interviewed over the matter and insisted on responding to questions via email.

The minister Robyn McSweeney declined twice to be interviewed, but after the story ran on ABC radio and television, she broke her silence.

“I won’t defend the indefensible. There is no way that I would condone any child being placed with a known sex offender,” Ms McSweeney said.

And she was quick to point the blame on the opposition.

“I am the first minister to take the children away from this situation.”

And the court also copped some of the blame.

“The department applied for a care and protection order and the courts decided to put the children back with the grandparents.”

“I’m not very impressed with a court system that puts children back in the home of a known sex offender.”

But, the Department won’t confirm it’s role in the court cases and whether its officers representing the children were supporting or opposing their placement into their grandparents home.

Ms Ellery says those questions must be answered.

The interim

Questions were asked as to what the government had been doing to rectify the situation since the children were returned to the home in 2007.

While the initial responses from the Department said the children were safe, the minister later said they’d been busy compiling evidence.

“I had to make damn sure that we had enough ironclad evidence that the department had enough ironclad evidence to go back to court,” Ms McSweeney said.

“And it’s ludicrous that you have to gather evidence to go back to court.”

But Ms Ellery claims the Department was handed evidence in November last year from a community member concerned about the treatment the children were receiving.

A letter from the community members dated November 17, 2009, states they were “horrified with the screaming and shouting from (the grandfather) directed at at the children… and constant crying from the girl.”

It also raised concerns that the children were often left alone in the home with their grandfather, a known paedophile.

The Department responded on November 26, advising them the grandfather “had been assessed as low risk by multiple qualified and experienced professionals, including clinical psychologists and forensic clinical psychologist.”

The letter goes on to say “that there is no further action required from DCP in regards to their concerns… and the DCP will continue to monitor the children…”

Movement

The children were removed from the home last week.

In a statement the Department said: “While in no immediate danger, it was clear that the placement was unsustainable due to the level of care being received by the children and the future risk as the children aged, evidenced by (the grandfather’s) previous convictions.”

The children are now in temporary foster care and the Department must go back to court to get permanent custody of them… but the minister can’t guarantee the court won’t return them to the home again.

Inquiry

Ms McSweeney told a news conference she would look into the circumstances, but the Opposition has called for something much tougher.

“There must be an external, independent inquiry into the circumstances that led the department to reach the conclusion, it now appears on numerous occasions, that this was a safe placement,” Ms Ellery said.

“The minister needs to satisfy the West Australian public that the Department argued strongly that this man should not have the kind of access that he had to his grandchildren and that the department has subsequently taken every every possible legal action to ensure that this man does not have ongoing, close household access to these children.”

New laws urged to stop baby dumping

The discovery of a baby boy abandoned several days ago at Albion Park Rail, on the New South Wales south coast, has prompted calls for new laws allowing mothers to give up newborn children safely and anonymously.

The State Opposition’s spokeswoman for community services, Pru Goward, says such laws would mean mothers are not faced with having to abandon a child.

Ms Goward says allowing mothers to give up newborns anonymously would mean babies could be left safely at a hospital.

“What we should be talking about in the future is encouraging women who don’t want to have a termination and don’t want to keep the baby, to give that baby up early, confident that it will be well looked after and loved, rather than as is often the case the baby is taken from the mother several years later because it is not being well looked after,” she said.

She says an anonymous process would be safer for both the mother and the child.

“There’s a pretty lengthy process that the state goes through to ensure that the baby hasn’t been kidnapped and that the baby hasn’t been forcefully taken from a mother, and that the mother does not have a mental illness, those things will not change, but what will change is that mothers who feel the need to do this can do so at a hospital,” she said.

The baby’s mother still has not been found

Who’s playing God?

We’re at the checkout at our local IGA, working fast because the kids have spotted the chocolates placed strategically at kid-friendly height. The woman next in line asks pleasantly, and within ear-shot of one and all, whether their ‘real’ parents are dead. I smile and say politely ‘yes’.

A friend of ours who has also adopted a little girl from Ethiopia said that she was approached by a woman one day at her neighbourhood park. The friendly woman asked why her child called her ‘mum; did she teach her to do that?’

Talk to anyone that’s adopted a child from overseas and you’ll hear similar stories. We’ve possibly all suffered the looks of disgust. We laugh and move on.

The recent spate of media attention focusing on a foreign inter-country adoption program involving Ethiopia children (yes, America is a foreign country) has led to speculation about the Ethiopian-Australian program.

Lost on the media reports is the clear understanding of all people that have adopted from Ethiopia that the Australian program has many requirements that exist because of the unscrupulous workings of the American program. So it is ironic that some elements of the media have drawn parallels between these two disparate contexts. For one, the American system is privatised and involves many non-government organisations; the Australian program is strictly controlled by governments, both state and federal in almost all jurisdictions.

Inter-country adoption is not a perfect process. But how can it be? We are involving bureaucracies with the establishment of families across diverse circumstances. Governments can only cope with generalisations while the circumstances and situations underpinning every single adoption are entirely different.

To give some background to our situation: we adopted our two children in 2004 when Eskindir was two and Eskedar was four years of age; they had been living with their grandmother since their father died in an uprising in about 2002; their mother is believed to have died soon after leaving the children with their grandmother. There is only one other sibling, Meron. She has been living with us in Canberra since mid-June 2009. She is in Australia on a student visa and is 17 years of age. They have been loved from birth and continue to be loved.

The act of adoption itself raises many ethical issues. In a perfect world we would never have had our children. Their biological parents would be alive; their father would not have become involved in an uprising and would not have been killed and their mother would be fit and well and thriving in a disease-free Ethiopia. In a perfect world we believe that children are best raised within their culture of birth. Yet in the case of our children, their sick grandmother and other relatives, felt that they could not care for them. In reality, we think we are better than an orphanage. If you don’t believe us, go and spend a day in one in Addis Ababa.

The other option: fund the children to live with their grandmother in their country of birth so that they gain all the opportunities that they would be offered here. Well this is where we face our demons; we wanted children. Yes, this could be called selfish, we still think of it in that way, but so be it. We are playing God. But all the journalists that jumped quickly on the criticism bandwagon are also playing God.

When they return to their comfy upper-middle class homes think of the children in orphanages in Ethiopia. Yes, there are problems with inter-country adoption, yes we should be striving to make the system as perfect as possible and no child should ever be adopted unless the Hague Convention requirements are clearly followed but don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater.

Let’s not see our government give up because it is all too difficult. We should be looking at our program, not in terms of what is going on in America, but in terms of the way that it is functioning in Australia. We should be seeking to constantly improve the program so that the needs of children are not misrepresented, here or in Ethiopia. Instead of looking down from the dizzy heights of comfort and casting quick judgements, why not try to understand the complexities of inter-country adoption and seek to see that the rights of children are always uppermost in our minds.

Every thoughtful Australian adoptive parent, when going through the process of adoption, is forced to think deeply about the rights associated with raising a child away from the child’s birth country and birth culture. Watching our children now, with more than five years of Australian culture under their belt, we can only see them as our children and the relatives back in Ethiopia, grandparents and cousins, are part of our lives too.

Yet like all parents, we worry; we worry not just about the day-to-day things that are part and parcel of parenting, but we worry about linking across two countries and cultures. We worry about their ‘acceptance’ in Australia. The current media attention has done nothing to ease our minds.

Tim Gavel is ABC Grandstand’s Canberra broadcaster.

Slim and radiant Britney Spears stars in new Candie”s ads

London, Mar 25 (ANI): Britney Spears has starred in the latest adverts for American fashion brand Candie’s.

And the pop-star with a troubled past looks slim and radiant in the pics for the campaign.

However, a short time later, the 28-year-old pop princess appeared tired and podgy, with greasy unwashed hair, while out on a shopping trip in Beverly Hills, California.

Recently, fellow songstress Ke$ha, 23, blasted Britney on her new single Styrofoam, singing: “In 10 years, Britney Spears‚ Britney who?”

“She looked a bit tired but bear in mind she’s a young mum juggling parenting and a showbiz career. Cut the girl some slack!” the Daily Star quoted a Britney fan as saying. (ANI)

Aussie dads lead world in parenting

Sydney, March 22 (ANI): Australian dads are better when compared to those in Italy, France or Denmark, says a study.

Lyn Craig, a senior research fellow at the Social Policy Research Centre at the University of NSW, found fathers Down Under worked harder than Danish, French or Italian ones and the same as Americans in terms of their long hours in paid work combined with their domestic labours.

For example, Australian fathers spend 10 to 11 hours a day in paid and domestic work as compared to eight hours for Danish men, according to researchers.

””They do less than Australian women but they compare favourably to men in some other countries,”” the Sydney Morning Herald quoted Dr Craig as saying.

She added: ””Intensive parenting seems to be a phenomenon of Anglo countries. ”Australian men and women -but especially women – spend more time with their children than do parents in the other countries, with only the US coming close.”” (ANI)

Australians caught in Ethiopian adoption nightmare

Australian families have made serious allegations of corruption within Australia’s inter-country adoption program with Ethiopia.

The ABC has spoken to several families who claim they have been lied to in the course of their adoption process.

They have told heartbreaking stories of their time in Ethiopia – from witnessing their new baby choking on vomit, to a young boy being kept in a bucket to stop him from moving about. One family had to pay a bribe and others found their paperwork falsified with their child’s age dramatically altered.

The families say the Federal Government has been slow to act and has not fully investigated the allegations.

When Jody was holding her baby son in her arms, she was distraught to witness an Ethiopian mother discover she had lost hers forever.

“When I was walking [out of the women's centre] a lady screamed and yelled and cried and fell to the ground,” she said.

“This mother had come back to the women’s shelter [where] she’d placed her baby for adoption. She changed her mind and came back to get it within a couple of days – but it was already gone.

“That was just heart-wrenching and I felt sick.”

She added that she thought the process was far too quick to have gone through the proper channels.

Last year Foreign Correspondent revealed corruption within US-Ethiopia adoptions, and more families have spoken out as a result.

It seems some Australians are not protected from corruption despite it being an Australian Government-run program.

The person in charge of the program is Ato Lakew Gebeyehu. ABC News Online made a number of attempts to contact Mr Gebeyehu, but was unable to do so.

Mr Gebeyehu is responsible for Koala House, a transition home for children going to be adopted by Australian families. This home, which is part of the Australian government program, is accused of not properly feeding the children and maintaining their health.

The office of Attorney-General Robert McClelland says a recent review found issues of concern within the program and is working to restructure the program.

ABC News Online has been told by a spokesman for Mr McClelland that Australia will sign a new agreement with Ethiopia, however whether Mr Gebeyehu remains in his position is still to be decided.

But the ABC has obtained documents showing the Howard government knew of serious concerns about the program in 2005 and that the Rudd government was warned again in 2008 by Brussels-based human rights organisation Against Child Trafficking.

Koala House

The families interviewed by the ABC have had their names changed because of fears they may lose their children and concerns that life will be made hard for surviving biological relatives in Ethiopia.

Australian parents pay thousands of dollars in fees, donations and aid for the care of their children in Koala House.

But all three families say their children were handed to them with a range of problems including severe malnutrition and pneumonia.

Sarah, who has adopted three Ethiopian children, believes the money she paid to care for her children never reached them.

“In our first adoption we took over about 80 kilos of aid. The majority of that was formula, and because we had a baby we also paid the formula fee for her,” she said.

“We were also asked to replace all of the formula she would have consumed during her time she was at Koala House … and it turned out she was actually fed cow’s milk and was lactose intolerant.

“She was massively malnourished when we got her. She had full-blown pneumonia because she’d been swallowing her own vomit.”

Sarah’s older daughter later explained that she was hardly fed.

“She’d get given rice and carrot mixed together as a meal of porridge for breakfast. Except for when the Australian families came … [they] would put on a big party … and when that happened, there would be so much food. But when those families went, then it’d be carrot and rice,” she said.

Jody says it was a similar story when she and her husband were in Ethiopia to collect their son from Koala House.

“Our son has attachment issues, but he was never held or cuddled until we got him. He was just picked up to be changed or had a bottle propped up on a pillow,” she said.

“We were told when we picked him up that they used to sit him in a bucket so he couldn’t learn to move around much. He’d worn all the hair off the back of his head from it rubbing against the bucket.

“A friend of ours had an older child who says they only get one meal a day, which was concerning because the amount of money that we raised for the centre. I raised thousands and thousands.”

Program reinstated

Earlier this month Mr McClelland announced he will lift a temporary suspension of the adoption program, after concerns of possible breaches of the Hague Convention on inter-country adoption.

The convention is in place to ensure the welfare of children is the priority and that international adoptions are used only as a last resort. Australia is a signatory to the convention but Ethiopia is not.

It will resume operating on April 6 with some changes made, but it appears Mr Gebeyehu will stay in charge.

Against Child Trafficking spokeswoman Roelie Post says Mr Gebeyehu was arrested in Ethiopia and held for 12 days on suspicion of trafficking children to Austria in 2008.

Ms Post says her organisation received little response from the Australian Government after alerting it to this and other alleged concerning practices.

“The children are not orphans. The paperwork is often faked. Parents are declared dead who are not dead and children are given the wrong ages,” she said.

“Our organisation sent a letter to the Australian Government with 1,600 pages attached to it with evidence of trafficking in adoptions relating to Australia and India.

“Also we alerted the Australian authorities to Ethiopia, especially to the Ethiopian representative whose name was mentioned in a trafficking case in Austria.”

Ms Post does not accept the Australian Government’s explanation that Mr Gebeyehu’s arrest was just a case of mistaken identity. She thinks there are serious issues that need to be investigated and that the case was mishandled.

“The children come from the same pool, therefore the situation [in Australia] is comparable to adoptions in the US or the Netherlands or any other country.”

Sarah says she is aware of older adoptive children recognising each other from Ethiopia and while she stops short of calling it child trafficking, she says it is “on the fringes”.

“I have heard that has happened in Australia, where children have known each other prior to coming under Lakew’s care – that’s a very big coincidence,” she said.

Blocked

All families interviewed by the ABC claim they were not supplied with paperwork and vital information about their children and were blocked by officials from finding information on biological families.

When Anne and her husband adopted their daughter, they say almost all the information about their child’s origin was falsified.

They were told she was abandoned, but when through their own search they tracked down the biological parents, they discovered this was a lie.

“The [birth parents] were both devastated, particularly the father. They were so sad to think that their child would have grown up thinking she had been abandoned by them.

“They told us that they could never have done such a thing to their child. They agonised over the decision to relinquish their daughter and they did it legitimately.

“What makes us angry is that our daughter was stripped of her history and there seems to be no valid reason for this to have happened.

“Our child was given a new name and a new birth date and was passed off as having been abandoned.”

Sarah adopted two sisters in 2002. She and her husband were told the “orphaned” children were four years old and nine months, with no living relatives.

They later found the eldest daughter was not four, but closer to eight. They also discovered the girls had a mother and that the eldest had two brothers whom she was allegedly warned never to mention.

“She told us exactly where they were and we located them two days later and the brothers told us at the time that she was eight years old,” she said.

Jody was also told that her son was abandoned and there was no information about his mother. But years later when her family returned to Ethiopia for their second adoption, they discovered this was not the case.

“With a bit of what we call African persuasion, which is $500, we managed to get a photograph, full name and full details of his birth mother,” she said.

“The whole place revolves around money under the table.”

Kate Winslet, Sam Mendes split

London, Mar 16 (ANI): Actress Kate Winslet and her husband Sam Mendes have parted ways.

The pair’s lawyers confirmed the separation in a statement.

“Kate and Sam are saddened to announce that they separated earlier this year,” the BBC News quoted a statement by lawyers Schillings, as stating.

The statement added: “The split is entirely amicable and is by mutual agreement.

“Both parties are fully committed to the future joint parenting of their children. They ask that the media respect the privacy of the family.”

It was Winslet”s second marriage. Her first husband was director Jim Threapleton with whom she had a daughter, Mia.

Winslet and Mendes have one child together, Joe. (ANI)

Govt asked to explain parental leave delay

The Federal Opposition has questioned if the Government is serious about its paid parental leave scheme when it has not yet introduced a bill to implement it.

The Government promised in last May’s budget that it would set up a scheme from next January for 18 weeks leave at the minimum wage, but is still drafting it.

The Opposition last week promised a 26-week scheme at full pay if elected.

Its spokeswoman on the status of women, Sharman Stone, says the Government should explain the delay.

“They’re caught short,” Dr Stone said.

“They have no timetabling for the introduction of their paid parental leave scheme. It’s a very simple – and I would add – simplistic scheme.

“It’s not rocket science to put that into legislation, so you have to wonder why has it been absolutely out of sight and out of mind for Labor until we put our superior scheme on the table.

“There’s a long winter recess on its way. We seem to have the schedule for legislation between now and that recess quite full, so I think this has been another blunder on the part of Labor.

“It’s a bit of an example of how they treat the whole issue.”

The Government wants the legislation passed by the middle of the year, even though there are only 10 Senate sitting days scheduled before Parliament’s winter recess.

Families Minister Jenny Macklin says the delay has been caused by consultations with business.

She says the legislation will be introduced soon.

“There’s been a lot of detailed issues that needed to be worked through that’s been done in a very systematic way and a thoughtful way,” Ms Macklin said.

“The Labor Government wants to do this properly. We, unlike the Liberal Party, want to make sure we get this right.

“The legislation will be concluded shortly and I hope the Senate will support it given the extensive work that’s gone into its development.

“We’ll be delivering it as soon as possible. It’s being drafted right now.”

Parents sue for $18m after babies taken

Figures released by the New South Wales Government show the number of babies taken from mothers by the Department of Community Services (DoCS) is on the rise.

In NSW, there has been a staggering 70 per cent rise in baby removals from maternity wards.

In 2007, 215 babies were taken by DoCS. In 2009, 363 babies were taken.

Sometimes it is justified, but there are concerns some babies are taken too hastily.

One NSW couple, Liz and Richard, had two babies removed – one aged two and one newborn. They are now suing the Department of Community Services (DoCS) for $18 million in compensation.

Back in 2008, when the babies were removed, DoCS claimed that there was an immediate risk to the safety of the babies.

The parents fought back in the courts and successfully disproved allegations about drug dependency, domestic violence and mental illness.

“Their spiel was that I had a history of mental health issues,” Liz said.

“I had three psychiatric assessments done through DoCS and they all came back with a plain bill of mental health.

“That did not stop [DoCS caseworkers] from proclaiming that I had a history of mental health issues.”

Justice George Palmer of the NSW Supreme Court said DoCS caseworkers had seriously abused their power. The children were returned to their parents immediately.

But the family is now suing the department for $18 million in compensation for their emotional loss and trauma.

“We never got an apology or any sort of restitution,” the children’s father, Richard, said.

“All they did was just return the kids and dumped a couple of suitcases of clothes on the back of my ute.”

A date has been set for the first hearing.

Act amended

In 2006 the NSW Government introduced an amendment to the Children and Young Persons (Care and Protection) Act.

It meant babies who have an older sibling living in out-of-home care could be taken more easily at birth.

After these changes to the legislation came about, social workers in the John Hunter Hospital in Newcastle noticed a sharp increase in the numbers of babies removed at birth.

In 2000, one baby was removed every two months. So far, in 2010, it is up to one baby a week.

“In cases where Community Services had previously removed another child in the family, under the changes to the legislation, they (DoCS) can use that evidence as prima facie in the Children’s Court,” said Michelle Wickham, the team leader of social workers at John Hunter Hospital.

“So instead of having to build a case with a new baby, they can rely on existing evidence from another child within the family.”

Ms Wickham says this is concerning because families can change over time.

She says parents should have the opportunity to prove that their circumstances have changed and that they are able to look after their newborn.

Babies at Risk? airs on Background Briefing on Sunday, March 14 at 9am AEDT.

Demi Moore threatens to sue blogger Perez Hilton over daughter’s pics

Washington, September 4 (ANI): Hollywood actress Demi Moore has threatened to sue celebrity blogger Perez Hilton, after she spotted a link on the latter’s site directing viewers to a set of “inappropriate” pictures of her teen daughter Tallulah.

The 15-year-old is the youngest of Demi’s three daughters with ex-husband Bruce Willis.

According to reports, the snaps Demi is angry at show the teen baring her chest in a revealing top, and wearing a tiny pair of shorts.

Moore has expressed her disgust about the pictures on her Twitter.com page, accusing the blogger of flouting child pornography laws.

“Expect another letter from my attorney, kitten,” Contactmusic quoted her as having written.

Moore goes on to rage about Hilton’s “exploitation” of teens in a series of furious posts.

She wrote: “Clearly Perez Hilton isn’t taking violating child pornography laws very seriously. He might not but there are a lot of people who do! Anyone who advertises follows or supports Perez supports violating child pornography laws!”

She further wrote: “Let me ask all of you, what is it called when someone is telling people to look and focus on a child’s ‘boobs and ass’ while providing photos? (It’s) child pornography! Or just being a general pervert/creep. Disgusting! This is not a game. Children should not be exploited. They must be protected.”

Hitting back at Morre, Hilton called her comments “libellous, defamatory, inaccurate and stupid.”

In a post on his own Twitter.com page, he writes: “Thanks for drawing MORE attention to your daughter’s behaviour and your parenting skills (or lack thereof). U r (sic) real smart! That is CLEARLY not child porn. And I didn’t even post those on my site! I would not let my 15 year old daughter dress like that under ANY context. You are delusional and slightly senile!” (ANI)

Learning the nuances of parenting, the psychologists’ way

New Delhi, Aug.30 (ANI): As today’s education and modern culture have widened the generational gap between the parents and children, there is a growing need for parents to understand how to ensure a distinct upbringing of their tiny-tots in the best possible way.

Noted psychologist Dr. Sanjay Chugh has introduced parent training module to enable parents have a greater psychological insight into their child’s mind and live as happy parents.

The programme includes interactive sessions where parents can get answers they all should get about child upbringing.

Dr. Chugh’s programme promises to educate parents about things like-the best way to communicate with your child, the most appropriate way to discipline your child, how to still sound values and also have a fulfilling relationship with the child?, what do to when all is not well with the child? and many other related day-to-day problems faced in almost every other family in today’s life.

The sessions will be conducted by Dr. Sanjay Chugh and trained psychologists. He can be contacted at Email: drchugh@gmail.com (ANI)

Men with high testosterone levels ‘more likely to have multiple wives’

London, Aug 28 (ANI): Men with high testosterone levels are more likely to have multiple wives, according to a new study.

They also give less attention to their kids.

High testosterone levels have been linked to increased sexual activity, infidelity and marital conflict. However, after men become fathers, their bodies typically pump out less of the hormone.

“This is good for us, so we can adapt to social challenges very quickly,” New Scientist quoted Alexandra Alvergne, an anthropologist at the University of Montpellier, France, and the University of Sheffield, UK, who led the new study, as saying.

In the study involving rural Senegalese villagers, the researchers underscored testosterone’s critical role in a mating and parenting.

Lead researcher Alexandra Alvergne, an anthropologist at the University of Montpellier, France, and the University of Sheffield, UK measured testosterone levels in 21 polygynous fathers as well as 32 monogamous dads and 28 unmarried men without children.

The researchers also asked the men’s wives about the time and money their husband spent to the family.

The findings revealed that no matter how many wives they had, fathers had lower testosterone levels than single men, on average.

It also showed that among fathers, those with more testosterone tended to invest less time in their wives and children.

And polygynous men under the age of 50 produced more testosterone than monogamous men, on average.

According to Alvergne, older men with more than one wife made less of the sex hormone than other men. While older men may make less testosterone, they typically enjoy more prestige in their villages, which could make it easier to find multiple wives.

The study appears in journal Hormones and Behavior. (ANI)

Edwards to move ex-mistress closer to help raise love child

Washington, Aug.20 (ANI): Former Democratic presidential candidate John Edwards has said that he will move the mother of his love child into his North Carolina neighborhood so he can help raise their 18-month-old baby.

According to the National Enquirer, which was the first to crack the story on Edwards affair with campaign aide Rielle Hunter, the former candidate’s wife, Elizabeth Edwards, who is stricken with cancer, was furious when her husband told her of his parenting plans.

With a secret DNA test proving Edwards is the father of Hunter’s daughter, Frances, Edwards is expected to admit his paternity before the end of an ongoing criminal investigation into whether his campaign illegally paid her to keep quiet about their affair, according to a TV news station in North Carolina.

Hunter apparently agreed to testify to a federal grand jury investigating whether Edwards broke campaign finance law by paying “hush” money to Hunter and another aide who claimed paternity of the child. Hunter was spotted last week in Raleigh, N.C., entering a federal courthouse, where she spent nine hours.

Edwards has admitted to an affair with Hunter that he says ended in 2006. That year, Edwards’ political action committee paid Hunter’s video production firm 100,000 dollars for work. Then the committee paid another 14,086 dollars on April 1, 2007.

Edwards, a North Carolina senator from 1998 until his vice presidential bid in 2004. (ANI)

Greg Giraldo – Mario Cantone – Jeff Ross – Joan Rivers – Carl Reiner

Greg Giraldo | Mario Cantone | Jeff Ross | Joan Rivers | Carl Reiner

Greg Giraldo (born December 10, 1965 in New York City) is an American stand-up comedian, television personality and former lawyer.

Giraldo was a regular on Comedy Central’s television series Lewis Black’s Root of All Evil. Giraldo is one of the Advocates who lobbies for their side to be considered the “root of all evil.” He has only won in two of his nine appearances.

For More Information on : http://www.greggiraldo.com/


Born
: December 10, 1965 (1965-12-10) (age 43)
New York City, New York, U.S.
Medium : Stand-up, Television
Nationality : American
Genres : Observational comedy, Black comedy, Surreal humor, Roast Comedian
Subject(s) : current events, everyday life, self-deprecation, marriage, parenting
Notable works and roles : Tough Crowd with Colin Quinn
Stand-Up Nation with Greg Giraldo
Comedy Central Roasts
Lewis Black’s Root of All Evil

Maternal stress key to behavioural problems in kids

Washington, Aug 9 (ANI): A new study has revealed that maternal stress both prenatal and early post-partum may lead to conduct problems in kids, which is likely to continue into adolescence.

Partner cruelty to the mother, harsh parenting and high levels of under-controlled temperaments in the children’s first years of life were also identified by the researchers as increasing the risk of conduct problems continuing into adolescence.

“… maternal anxiety, both prenatal and early post-partum, is critical in differentiating youths with persistent conduct problems from youths with childhood-limited conduct problems,” said Dr. Edward D.

“Ted” Barker, an assistant professor and researcher in UA’s Canter for the Prevention of Youth Behaviour Problems.

However, less than 50 percent of young children exhibiting high levels of conduct problems, including fighting, stealing and lying, will continue displaying these problems in adolescence.

“The results support intervention efforts that ‘start at the beginning’ and offer high-risk mothers health and psychological support beginning with their first obstetric screening,” said the researchers.

The study appears in the American Journal of Psychiatry. (ANI)