”Maybe later” is the phrase most hectic parents use to delay kids’ play request

London, May 20 (ANI): The phrase that today’s hectic parents use most often in response to their kids’ request to play with them is: “Maybe later”, revealed a new study.

Researchers found that, despite children being parents” ”main priority”, 80 per cent admit they don”t devote enough time to them.

In fact, the report found working parents spend less than an hour a day giving their kids one-to-one attention – with the average child getting just 36 minutes with their mother or father.

Children”s responses to the survey painted a similar picture, claiming parents are too preoccupied with working, tidying and checking emails to address their needs.

The study of 3,000 working parents and their children by car insurance provider Admiral found that almost eight out of ten children said they were fed up of being parked in front of the television instead of being entertained.

The trend also showed adults are parenting ”remotely” from their laptops or kitchen sink and continually promising their attention ”later”.

””The generation of ”Maybe Later” kids shows a worrying trend of parents not spending as much time as they should with their children,” the Telegraph quoted James Carnduff of Admiral, which conducted the research as part of its Family Journeys campaign, as saying.

””Parents admit their children aren”t getting enough of their attention, and children are also feeling the impact of this, desperate for their parents to spend more time with them.

””We live in ever busier times with many parents taking work home with them once they leave the office, but it seems this is having a negative effect on the relationship they have with their children.

””Parents need to remember that playing with your kids is a great way to relieve stress and forget about work.

””The responses from the children we asked show that parents can”t get away with simply sticking their children in front of the TV as that”s simply no replacement for quality time,” he added.

The research also found on top of a normal full time working week, busy parents log onto their emails as soon as they get home from work at least four nights a week.

And at least one of the two parents misses dinner twice a week due to working late.

When at home, 70 per cent of mums and dads admit they spend much of their spare time cooking and cleaning rather than playing with their children.

And 56 per cent often find themselves promising to play with their children after they have finished a bit of work, checked their emails or completed household chores.

But kids are fed up with being treated like second best.

Two thirds said mum and dad are always saying they”ll help with homework or play ”later”.

Six in ten children said they wished their parents worked less and 55 per cent wished they would leave the cleaning until after they went to bed.

Sixty eight per cent said they would like it if their parents had more time to play with them.

””Trying to balance work and home life can be difficult in modern society, but simple things like going on trips as a family can be easy and fun, and don”t need to cost a lot of money,” said Carnduff.

””We”re encouraging families to take more trips out together; these family memories are the things our kids remember from their childhood.

””Saying ”maybe later” to children needs to become a thing of the past for parents, as the results of our survey show that the nation”s children are well and truly fed up,” he added. (ANI)

The Book of Guys

Don’t judge Quarantine by its tacky pink cover with four denim-clad crotch shots. It is an intelligent and funny collection of short stories, written comfortably and unaffectedly out of a gay Indian-American self.

There are stories of adolescent friendships that go slack over time, of the relationship between different generations of an immigrant family, of the spikiness of a long-term relationship on the skids. They do seem like different corners of the same person’s experience, but they are different enough in depth and effect to keep one entertained and charmed.

A couple of these stories have an overly workshopped feel — the flash of recognition, the piling of quirky detail are all technically in place — but lack punch or import. And sometimes, they are way too baggy. “Yours”, for instance, meanders on, crab-like, for 40 pages about a love triangle of sorts between the narrator, his dancer-boyfriend and an older artist-writer. Its revelations are trite — that when you’re a character in someone else’s book, it’s not you any more, all fiction is true lies. It bristles with pop culture references — Janet Jackson’s career, a tedious conversation about Whitney Houston’s vs. Dolly Parton’s rendering of I will always love you. Some of these references serve a purpose, like the Robert Mapplethorpe-Andres Serrano-NEA episode, as they reveal cultural tensions of the time — but mostly they are just used as a thickening agent, and it makes the story one goopy mess.

Being Indian American and being gay are crucial facts in this collection, but they do not determine or limit the narrator. In fact, India is only dimly present in this collection — a place whose poverty assails visitors, a place that aged relatives pine for, a place enterprising young men escape in search of “a better life” for their children. “The Cure”, for instance, is a sharp little story about a young man who can’t help burning money — literally — over a kitchen sink, one after the other, “until my wallet was empty and I felt full”. The pathology stems from an incident in India, where an eight-year-old carries his bag for less than a dollar, and then later, after he is treated to a thousand-dollar meal at Le Bernadin in New York, from his parents’ painstaking, scrimping route to prosperity, and his own sense of taint and guilt. Another story, “Citizen”, is about a Gujarati grandmother and her adolescent grandson who is prepping her for American citizenship test, after 9/11 leaves the family shaken and insecure. What it might lack in psychological layering (lonely grandmother, drifting into dreams of her childhood, and her inconsistently kind grandson), it makes up for in sweet comedy. The bewildered grandmother fails every question at the exam (despite her grandson and the officer trying their best to help). When asked to name the three colours of the American flag, she says “Vite? Red?” and then blanks out, until the officer points emphatically at his periwinkle tie, and she says “blue” with a big smile, hoping this counted as three correct answers out of five. The story breaks off at the end of the interview, leaving the characters arrested in a golden autumn afternoon. And that’s enough.

My favourite in this collection is “What We Mean”, where the whimsy and sensitivity of the narrator and the loopy style of storytelling work perfectly. The narrator, stuck with temp work and an unravelling relationship, is struck by the sliding relationship of words and meanings. His grocery lists drift into a crazy code: “I replace cereal with surreal, Glad Bags with Sad Bags, coffee with sneezy and lettuce with let’s.” An injunction to a neighbour, “Move your car, s’il vous plait”, becomes “Move your car, Sylvia Plath” and then simply “Sylvia! Sylvia! Sylvia!” tucked under the windshield wipers. Later, when he rescues a dog, he wonders what it is barking at, and thinks of “TV dogs like Lassie, Benji and Rin Tin Tin. When those dogs bark, they are trying to communicate something vital. People who hear them understand.”

Quarantine is above all, a kind book. Relationships mutate, things are miscommunicated or left unsaid, but nearly all the stories foreground the warmth and connection between people. It is less about sexuality or erotic awakening as much as affection and banter, the support of family and friends, the durability of affection.

Jacqui Smith’s household expenses claims revealed

London, March 30 (ANI): British Home Secretary Jacqui Smith claimed taxpayer-funded allowances not only for the cost of two porn films her husband enjoyed at her family home, but also for several other household spending, including the proverbial kitchen sink.

She has even been accused of having submitted a claim for an 88p bath plug, as well as a range of high-tech electrical equipment.

According to reports, she has claimed about 150,304 pounds in spending on the family residence in her constituency of Redditch, which she nominates as her “second home”.

The expenses were paid on top of her salary, which last year stood at 141,866 pounds, reports the Telegraph.

As per the documents obtained by the newspaper, Jacquie’s payments include:

Two pay-per-view adult movies – 5 pounds each

Two pay-per-view screenings of the Hollywood blockbuster Ocean’s 13 – 3.75 pounds each

Pay-per-view screening of the animated cartoon Surf’s Up – 3.50 pounds

Habitat stone model sink – 550 pounds

Bath plug – 88p

Dining room table – 460 pounds

Sofabed – 704 pounds

Antique fireplace – 1,000 pounds. Also claimed for coal to burn in it.

Hotpoint cooker – 399 pounds

Connection fee for installing cooker – 15 pounds

Hotpoint tumble dryer – 189 pounds

Ariston washing machine – 249 pounds

Zanussi washing machine – nearly 300 pounds

Entertainment centre including DVD players, two Samsung widescreen televisions and two digital set-top boxes – more than 1,100 pounds. (ANI)

Jacqui Smith under public scrutiny after hubby’s porn film expense claims

London, March 30 (ANI): British Home Secretary Jacqui Smith has been fighting to salvage her credibility and future political career following the humiliating admission that she claimed taxpayer-funded allowances for the cost of two porn films her husband enjoyed at her family home, while she was away in London.
According to reports, the episode has threatened to further undermine Gordon Brown’s Government, which has been blighted by a series of expenses controversies in recent weeks.

Not only Jacqui’s political position is under scrutiny after this event, but her marriage is also said to be in jeopardy as a result of the row.

Her public humiliation comes at a time when she is already under investigation by the Parliamentary watchdog for claiming the share in the house she rents from her sister as her “main residence”.

Meanwhile, the Sunday Express says that a leaked copy of Jackie’s Additional Costs Allowance (ACA) shows that the couple were also reimbursed for two other films, and items totalling thousands of pounds like televisions, washing machines, a kitchen sink and even an 88p plug.

Under the rules, the Home Secretary has to confirm that all expenses refer to costs accrued in the course of her work as an MP.

Jackie has apologised for the claims and vowed to repay the amount.

Her husband Richard Timney also regretted about the embarrassment he had caused to his wife.

“I am really sorry for any embarrassment I have caused Jacqui. I can fully understand why people might be angry and offended by this,” the Telegraph quoted him as saying.

“Quite obviously a claim should never have been made for these films, and as you know that money is being paid back,” he added.

The adult films were viewed at 11.18pm on April 1 and 11.19pm on April 6, while Jackie was staying in London. (ANI)